“My friend just died. I don’t know what to do.”

I have had a lot of death around me over the past few years. A couple of suicides. Some died by what my friend called ‘acceptable suicide’ : alcohol.  I raced cars with  Micheal, and started a non profit in his memory along with my stepdads memory. Who both killed themselves, and loved cars. I started Outreach For The Finishline for people, like myself, who have PTSD to get into a flow state. To work on cars, or race them.

Another post from reddit that I ran across, 6 years or so ago, about death and it has stuck with me ever sense.  it’s a great read and worth your time:

Alright, here goes. I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents.

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Real Meditation Guide by mr_loose_cannon

awhile ago I ran across this post on reddit by u/mr_lose_cannon about meditation, and it’s probably one of the best guides to meditation I have read.

Real meditation guide:

  1. Focus on nothing but your breathing or something that is repeating. Standing up, sitting down, it doesn’t matter. Boring chores such as folding clothes is excellent.

  2. Your mind quickly becomes bored by this and start to wander.

  3. Let it wander but when a thought appears watch it approach and leave as quickly as you can, like a leaf passing by in the wind. Focus on the boring task at hand.

  4. Consider the thought that just passed. What made you think about it? Was it fear, anger, pride, honor, love? No quick answer? Move along, if it’s important it will come again.

  5. Eventually a new thought appears. Nip it in the bud in the same way.

Meditation is self therapy; Your thoughts examined by a neutral, emotionless observer.


 

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